Quotes by Helen Fisher

We are wired to find love.
- Helen Fisher
Romantic love is an addiction.
- Helen Fisher
I was married and divorced at 23.
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Love is not an emotion; it is a drive.
- Helen Fisher
I think the happiness we find, we make.
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People kill for love. They die for love.
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Since when is anyone truly honest with anyone?
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Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.
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People compose poetry, novels, sitcoms - for love.
- Helen Fisher
For men, being too put-together implies femininity.
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We all have restlessness in long-term relationships.
- Helen Fisher
I suspect privacy is a very new concept to humanity.
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Women are naturally prone to compete over their mates.
- Helen Fisher
In America, we are demanding everything from our marriage.
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Men fall in love faster than, and just as often as, women.
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Office romances are few, short, and not usually destructive.
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Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido.
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After a man falls madly in love, he no longer cares how old she is.
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I've always maintained that men were more romantic than women.
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Like most animals, we're wired to associate height with power.
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When you fight, anger drives up testosterone in both men and women.
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Men and women are like two feet; they can help each other get ahead.
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Globalization requires taking a broad contextual and long-term view.
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Good-looking people are always looking for other good-looking people.
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I think you will find that with divorce will come happier remarriages.
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People have been looking for love potions since hunter-gatherer societies.
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Women, it turns out, are built to lead - particularly in the modern world.
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If we remained perpetually infatuated, we couldn't eat, sleep or work.
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There's biology in everything, even when you're feeling spiritual.
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I can't conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.
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Your face and head give more information about you than any other body part.
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We're apt to fall in love with those who are mysterious and challenging to us.
- Helen Fisher
Experiences shape the brain, but the brain shapes the way we view experiences, too.
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There's every reason to think SSRIs blunt your ability to fall and stay in love.
- Helen Fisher
As a group, anthropologists are not too fond of people who work in the business world.
- Helen Fisher
Despite the myth that men are less committed, they are predisposed to desire marriage.
- Helen Fisher
In courtship, who wins and who loses will determine who passes on their DNA to tomorrow.
- Helen Fisher
Haiti is the poorest country in the western hemisphere; some say the poorest in the world.
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Scientists know that women gravitate to men who have a different immune system from theirs.
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Saliva has testosterone and estrogen. When you kiss, you're having a chemical experience.
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Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.
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There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.
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A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.
- Helen Fisher
Every time you cuddle with your children, you're likely to be driving down your testosterone.
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The women's movement is just a symptom of basic changes in the economy that are favoring women.
- Helen Fisher
Men tend to be hierarchical, but women are driven to make lateral connections so they can cooperate.
- Helen Fisher
Along with our many human propensities, we evolved a huge cerebral cortex with which we make decisions.
- Helen Fisher
We're not very dangerous animals; we don't have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.
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At first I assumed hate was the opposite of love. But it isn't. The opposite of love is indifference.
- Helen Fisher
Hair that gleams can send a clear sign that you're young and in your prime, whatever your actual age.
- Helen Fisher
A lot of people have been romantically in love with somebody who they feel wasn't appropriate to marry.
- Helen Fisher
The human brain is built to compare; it's Darwinian to consider an alternative when one presents itself.
- Helen Fisher
A Rolex watch or an expensive car are the things guys often use to show status, wealth, and basic desirability.
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There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.
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There's more than one person on the planet. When you're madly in love, that's not what you think.
- Helen Fisher
Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.
- Helen Fisher
Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.
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Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice.
- Helen Fisher
For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.
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When people tell you to walk a certain way, it's like not thinking of a purple tomato. You can't not do it.
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Almost always, when I'm on TV, the producers who call me, who negotiate what we're going to say, is a woman.
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The only people you and I are likely to know in common are people in the news - politicians, journalists and celebrities.
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Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.
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You can really get poked in the back and not feel it very much, but just a feather around your lips and you really do feel it.
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Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.
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Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there's a potential for a relationship.
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My hypothesis is that conservative Republicans have very clear values, and when you have that, you're simply more relaxed.
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Anthropologists have found evidence of romantic love in 170 societies. They've never found a society that did not have it.
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As women in industrial societies join the paid workforce, they gain the economic means to depart unhappy marriages more easily.
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Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to - at best - three years.
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When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.
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Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.
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I have always been interested in how you can walk into a room and there will be 40 people there and you are immediately drawn to one.
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You've got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.
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Any time you choose not to hide your tattoo, you're limiting your social sphere, because they're not popular in big business.
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Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.
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You don't come home from the office to spend time with another job. Hopefully you come home to someone you can have a good time with.
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The brain was not built to walk into a bar, where you know nobody, and start a conversation. That's not the way humanity has courted.
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Barriers tend to intensify romance. It's called the 'Romeo and Juliet effect.' I call it 'frustration attraction.'
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Touch is the mother of the senses. Not only are women more sensitive when they touch, but they're also more sensitive to being touched.
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Both sexes like the exercise and challenge of sports, but for men it's also a basic display behavior for impressing and winning a mate.
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You size up someone physically in less than one second - too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, too old, too young, too stuffy, too scruffy.
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Until recently, we regarded love as supernatural. We were willing to study the brain chemistry of fear and depression and anger but not love.
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Women spend their lives trying to look good for men. So a woman who feels she's sending the right visual signals is pleased with herself.
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We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.
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I think romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, thereby conserving mating time and energy.
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It's almost as if men who get tribal tattoos are trying to signal that they are dangerous, they're to be respected, and they're powerful.
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Hair that looks like it's been naturally sun-bleached makes you seem youthful, like you spend a lot of time outdoors. And that appeals to most people.
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Sometimes we fall in love with somebody who will probably never love us, for reasons having nothing to do with us but with their own mindset, their chemistry.
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There's a lot of talk about the positive aspects of love. We as a society downplay the danger, the anxiety, and the disappointment. We romanticize romance.
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Women like signs of money and education - things that indicate that not only is this guy going to have some resources, but he's also willing to share them.
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We evolved in a tropical climate where the smells of plants and flowers were all around us. We spent a lot of time in the trees with a lot of sunlight and no clothes.
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If two very different people pool their DNA, they'll create more genetic variety, and their young will come to the job of parenting with a wider array of skills.
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When chimps threaten, they open their mouth and show their teeth. It's a little like waving a knife in front of you. It's very primitive, and therefore bizarre.
- Helen Fisher
When you look at the brain regions associated with picking up data from the body, a huge amount of the brain is devoted to picking up information from the lips and tongue.
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Whether you're married or not, relationships - and the satisfaction tied to them - are extremely important for increasing men's and women's quality of life.
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In general, men are wired to notice obvious signs that convey interest in mating - a warm smile, for example - and ignore other subtleties, like if your lipstick is faded.
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More and more of us live segmented, compartmentalized lives. This isn't natural. For millions of years, our forebears knew everyone around them and everyone knew them.
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You know, when you've been dumped, the one thing you love to do is just forget about this human being, and then go on with your life - but no, you just love them harder.
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When you can't have someone but you're not willing to accept that, you try harder and become more extreme about it. Either you win the person back or you drive him away.
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Women have a better sense of color and a better color memory. They're more likely to notice when something doesn't match; more likely to notice what you're wearing.
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Men want to think women don't cheat, and women want men to think they don't cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other.
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The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm. And romantic love is not calm - it's elation, it's mood swings, and you're killing all that when you take the drug.
- Helen Fisher
When somebody leaves Match.com or Chemistry.com, they ask you why you left. One box you can check is, 'I found somebody.' Between 15 and 20 percent of people check that box.
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Women apparently are quite drawn to men who have differences rather than similarities in their histocompatibility system. They pick it up by smell, and they can pick it up from kissing.
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Liberals and conservatives are looking for entirely different things. Their attitudes toward romance and how they court are really dramatically different. There's almost no overlap.
- Helen Fisher
Men couldn't care less if your strands are perfectly styled and neat. In fact, he might like you more with some wildness or bedhead, since it shows you're carefree and relaxed.
- Helen Fisher